A chapter in this biography discusses Benjamin Franklin's list of common conversational sins which cause dislike. I think they are still true.
1. At the top of his list: talking overmuch. He says it never fails to excite resentment.
2. Seeming uninterested in the conversation
3. Speaking too much about your own life
4. Prying for personal secrets
5. Telling long and pointless stories
6. Contradicting or disputing someone directly
7. Ridiculing or railing against things except in small witty doses
8. Spreading scandal
I like this list. It really points out that in Franklin's eyes, it is important to listen. His first two rules are about listening!
Personally I find that talking or discussing things that are not proper context for the group of people you are with could also be important.
What do you think this list could use?
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